Tuesday, September 20, 2011
bad parent blog 7
Lakoff im gussing isnt black. he problem grew up in a home with both parents a 2.5 childeren and a family dog. i dont think he know what hes talking about having a strict father. to him a strict father was some that wanted him to grow up and be a man and do manly things like camping or to standup for your self if someone is giving you a hard time. i think he means that a strick father has to show strenght and be tuff in the world and thats why fathers seem so dissconnected. Mothers are the care givers and bring happines to the kids life. they make sure that they live and become functioning members of society. to me its nuature before nature. my mom rasied me and my sister by herself with no help from my father. and im graduting this year with out his help. so i do resent him for not being a man and steping up. but when it comes down to the end father dont know how to express there emotions so they just shut down if things get to much for them. but it all dependes on who raises the child more than where the child is raised.
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I don't think that Lakoff meant for these two family concept types to the ideal categories that are families fit in. I think the idea the Lakoff is trying to convey is that they are different ways people believe a group, society, community, country, or family are to be structured.
ReplyDeleteThe Strict father model conveys the idea that you are to follow the rules and will be punished if you break them. The nurturing parent model wants to know why people break rules and to fix the problems that cause them.
My family does not fit in either category because I was raised mostly by my mother who was not strict or very nurturing. While my father was around sometimes, he had no control over how we were raised. My brother and I were sort of self-raised and generally free to make our own decisions and keep out of trouble on our own (which we did, sometimes).